The Sweet Sobriety community is private, and here for you 24/7. To protect our community’s security and integrity, we have created 5 simple Community Agreements to abide by. We're here to grow, support one another, cheer our wins, share our stories, and hold each other up. These agreements are the boundaries and the glue that keep our community spaces sustainable and as safe as possible. Please read them thoroughly and do not hesitate to ask if you want or need clarification. We're grateful you're here. Welcome!
Agreement #1: We agree to honor everyone's individual recovery experience. To honor each of our unique journeys, we remember that there is no right or wrong way to heal. There is only the way that works best for each of us within the context of our life and experience.
•In this spirit, we agree to not shame others, and to refrain from making statements that imply another's path is wrong or they are doing it the wrong way. Out of respect for others and also our own unique path, we further agree to speak of and from our personal experiences in regards to what has worked or been challenging for us, vs. what everyone else should and should not be doing. Phrasing our perspective with statements like 'In my experience..' or 'For me…', etc. is the way to go. Ex. 'In my experience, spirituality has been central to recovery' or 'For me, counting days hasn’t been helpful.'
•We also agree that, whatever our profession, we are here as participants first. This is so each member can approach and engage in conversations in a personal manner without offering and/or receiving professional perspective or advice.
Agreement #2: We agree to keep what is shared by other members, the Recovery Coaches, Subject Matter Experts and other Sweet Sobriety Staff confidential.
•This journey is a life-changing one, and some of us share the hardest things we have ever said in this space. We agree to respect the sacredness of this space, to take the wisdom and lessons provided to us and agree to keep the details of the person who imparted the knowledge private.
•We agree not to bring any identifying information shared by members on a call or community channel into any other spaces within or outside of Sweet Sobriety.
•While we do our best to protect privacy, and our employees are not mandatory reporters, we do want to ensure all our members get the level of care they need. If harmful behavior—directed at yourself or at others—is either expressed or reported, a Sweet Sobriety staff member may reach out to you to understand if you may require a higher level of care than we can provide, and/or if medical attention is needed.
Agreement #3: We agree to avoid party politics and political debates, and to only discuss politics as it affects us and impacts our recovery personally.
•We tie these agreements together because racism, sexism, classism, homophobia, ageism, ableism, and more are often written off as politics, or “identity politics,” rather than personal experiences that are lived and contribute to our relationship to food. We ask that all who are part of our community remember two things in this regard:
1. The primary goal of the group is recovery.
2. We discuss these topics in terms of how they affect us and our ability to live a life we do not want to escape from.
•In this spirit, we also agree to sit with the discomfort that comes with witnessing or engaging in conversations about race, gender and other aspects of identity.
Agreement #4: We agree to create as safe a place as possible for healing, and to practice the Sweet Sobriety value 'always growing, and always learning.'
•We acknowledge that words, phrases, images, and expressions that have been normalized throughout our lives sometimes have racist, classist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, sizeist or otherwise harmful and oppressive origins–and we agree not to use them. We are mindful of the imagery we share and what is visible on our videos on calls so as to avoid bringing symbols of oppression into our shared space (ex. Blue Lives Matter images or confederate flags/paraphernalia).
•We do not perpetuate sizeism/healthism by making value judgments on bodies or eating (learn more at https://benourished.org/).
•Many of us have been through traumatic events in our lifetime, and it can be healing to open up about them during our recovery journey. While Sweet Sobriety spaces allow us to process the impact of trauma, we agree to refrain from sharing explicit details of traumatic events, as this can be triggering for members. A note on explicit details/descriptions: 'avoiding explicit details' means that while we can share and name something that occurred, we would avoid any graphic descriptions of the actions, sensations, and bodily experience related to it.
•We agree to be open to receiving feedback, showing up for hard conversations, and actively working against engaging in harmful language, behaviors, and ideologies while participating in the community.
•We further agree to approach each other from a 'calling-in' mindset(calling in is about using problematic, offensive, or insensitive infractions as opportunities to invite people to learn, grow, and change). Sweet Sobriety is a place of learning and compassion and we develop this supportive and growth-focused culture together. In this spirit, we ask that community members approach any tough or challenging interactions with the goal of bridging disconnection and engaging with the vulnerability that these kinds of conversations require, as opposed to reinforcing shame, blame or punishment. This allows for supportive conversations and accountability for any harm done. It gives us all room to grow and make mistakes without the sense that we are in some way a 'bad' or 'wrong' person.
Agreement #5: We agree to refrain from threatening or attacking the character of fellow community members, including Sweet Sobriety staff, either online or in person. We further agree to refrain from unsolicited/unwanted sexual advances or commentary towards fellow community members and Sweet Sobriety staff. This is to keep our community spaces safe for all. We understand that any violation of this, as determined by Sweet Sobriety staff and/or representatives, will result in removal from Sweet Sobriety community spaces.
•If harmful or offensive behavior—directed at others based on their race, ethnicity, religion, gender, sexuality, ability, size, etc.—is either expressed or reported, a Sweet Sobriety staff member will reach out to you to understand if the incident requires you to take a break from our community spaces, or leave the Sweet Sobriety program.
•If you have been made to feel unsafe by any member of this community or by Sweet Sobriety staff, please email Info@sweetsobriety.ca
•If you have feedback on this program or Sweet Sobriety generally (including any tech concerns or issues), please email Info@sweetsobriety.ca
In order to keep the space safe, please do not post intent to harm yourself or others. The online community is not meant to serve as acute crisis support. If you’re in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text “HOME” to 741-741. Any explicit statements about intent to harm self or others will be removed and we will reach out to you directly to connect you with the right resources. We love you, and we’re so glad you’re here. Your safety is our primary concern. If you need clarity or have questions on any of this, reach out to us at Info@sweetsobriety.ca